During this limbo period, I have tried to organize vendors, information, referrals, and contacts as much as possible. It got me thinking… How do I know which vendor, boutique, dress, flower, colors etc. is right for our wedding?
Yes I have a SLIGHT advantage over most, after working in the bridal industry for about four years, you would think I would know all of the “right” vendors, have endless contacts and know exactly what I wanted…. Well I don’t.
Yes, I have made many contacts, I have seen endless amounts of dresses, flowers, linens, decor ideas, and photos. This has not made my decisions any easier. No matter what vendor you meet with, they will show you the best of the best, the most amazing arrangements, breath taking photos and miraculous decor. All of which will depend on your venue, budget and weather conditions (Ugh! trust me i'm asking Santa for a clear sky September 5th). I’ve learned that you can have anything you want, but it will cost you.
Making a decision on vendors usually comes from referrals, which are usually friends or family who have used their services in the past. It’s a decisions that you have to make on a gut feeling. They can show you the most perfect arrangement, you will fall in love with everything about it. You book the florist and dream about those flowers and that perfect color. But reality is, sometimes the flowers are unavailable that day/week at the wholesale market. The one shade of green isn't the same as that sample you saw months and months ago and it will not be at your wedding. It’s not one’s fault, its just reality. You can spent thousand and thousands on a florist who may not be able to produce that dreamt about bouquet. So choosing someone who gets your vision, someone who collaborates with your ideas, who YOU believe can be creative and innovative enough that you don't notice any last minute changes, or mistakes becomes a challenging task.Although I do not live that far away from my venue site, I do find it difficult to schedule any meeting or tasting. I have tried to make all of these decisions without thinking about them too much. I can not over think any decision. If I were given too many options, I would NEVER make a decision. I have a hard enough time at the grocery store never mind a one-time life event.
Not all of my vendors have been chosen, and I am not sure when I will decide on the rest of them, but until it’s really crunch time, i'm going to do what feels right, hope for the best, and PRAY that they will execute my vision
When I was younger I danced (I was not the most graceful little girl nor could I remember the steps correctly) but my point is, no one knew. If something goes wrong on our wedding day no one other than Matt, and I (well maybe bridezilla, Donna, Sarah and a few other family members) will know. Make the best of out the situation, sweating the small stuff will take away from the bigger picture.
- Ash
